
{"id":5866,"date":"2021-06-18T09:55:33","date_gmt":"2021-06-18T07:55:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/?p=5866"},"modified":"2021-10-20T15:59:19","modified_gmt":"2021-10-20T13:59:19","slug":"overcoming-imposter-syndrome","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/blog\/career-change\/overcoming-imposter-syndrome\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Lies You Tell Yourself if You Have Imposter Syndrome (and How to Debunk Them)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are reading this, chances are you know what imposter syndrome is. It\u2019s that nagging fear of being \u201cfound out,\u201d of not being good enough, or not deserving your success or achievements.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We\u2019ve all experienced this. When I interviewed for a job as a careers coach with absolutely <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">no<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> experience, I sold myself to the boss by telling him I could empathize with the students I\u2019d be helping. I told him that if he took a chance on me, that no-one would work harder to prove themselves than I would. And most of all, I promised that I had a genuine passion for helping people to find their way in work. I wanted to help. This was the truth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To my great surprise, I got the job. But a period of sheer terror followed. I was terrified that the students would know that I was staying up all night, googling the best ways to approach interview questions. I was afraid that my boss would discover that I had paid a professional resume-writer $300 to fix my resume and give me some coaching around how to best position myself. And most of all, I was nervous that I\u2019d make a fool of myself in front of my colleagues, who to me, seemed like they <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">really<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> knew what they were doing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What I didn\u2019t know was this.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The google all-nighters = initiative and determination<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The resum\u00e9 consultant = self-awareness about my skills gaps<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And my colleagues? Well, after a month on the job, I realized they were all just like me. Some had been teachers, some had worked selling cell phones at retail stores, some were former event managers, or personal trainers, or friends of the boss. No-one had it <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">half<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> as nailed down as I thought they did.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m here to tell you that myself and many others have suffered the crippling fear of imposter syndrome so that you don\u2019t have to. Here, I\u2019ll bust five of the biggest lies I told myself when I was starting new jobs, new careers and new paths, and what you can do to overcome those feelings in yourself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Before we jump in, check out this video where myself and Brittni Bowering talk in-depth about how to beat imposter syndrome:<\/p>\n<style>.embed-container { position: relative; padding-bottom: 56.25%; height: 0; overflow: hidden; max-width: 100%; } .embed-container iframe, .embed-container object, .embed-container embed { position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; }<\/style>\n<div class=\"embed-container\"><iframe src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/1P0FoNcg1uw\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lie 1: I am, in fact, an <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">actual<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> imposter!<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For people making career changes, there\u2019s a strong feeling that comes with reading or hearing about imposter syndrome. It goes like this:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cYou might feel like an imposter, but I literally <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">am<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> an imposter! I used to be a nurse\/barista\/accountant and I really have no business pretending to <a href=\"https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/blog\/ux-design\/how-to-become-a-ux-designer\/\">be a UX designer<\/a>.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hard fact: unless you\u2019ve told outright lies to get an interview or job or promotion, you\u2019re not an imposter. Here\u2019s why. If you have 100% of the skills and experience they\u2019re looking for then you are not qualified for the job. You\u2019re <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">overqualified. <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Heck, even if you have 70% of the skills and experience you need, you might <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">still <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">be overqualified.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hiring managers will tell you this, bosses will tell you this, and I\u2019m telling you this. By hiring someone that ticks every single box, managers are creating a huge risk that this person will want a raise or promotion too quickly.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning on the job has not only become acceptable, it\u2019s become the norm. Remember that regardless of your background, if you know how to push yourself, ask for feedback, celebrate your victories, and learn, then you, my friend, <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">are not an imposter.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-5872\" src=\"http:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/how-to-overcome-imposter-syndrome.jpg\" alt=\"A tech professional sitting on a couch, having a job interview\" width=\"1200\" height=\"600\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/how-to-overcome-imposter-syndrome.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/how-to-overcome-imposter-syndrome-300x150.jpg 300w, https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/how-to-overcome-imposter-syndrome-1024x512.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/how-to-overcome-imposter-syndrome-768x384.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lie 2: I\u2019m new to this so I\u2019ll need to start riiiiight at the bottom<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Like we said before, if you have 100% of the skills and experience that an employer is looking for then you are actually overqualified. You might not realize it now, but someone who has loads of experience and expertise can sometimes be a pain in the butt to work with! They can be inflexible, stuck in their ways, and might not be open to new ways of thinking or doing things.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We suggest reframing your skills and experience so that they are a benefit to you and the company. As someone who is new to your field, you\u2019re a blank canvas, a sponge. You have the ability to become the team member that your company needs you to be, not the type of person that brings tired ideas from another organization.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, that\u2019s not to say that experience counts for nothing. But a long, specialized career doesn\u2019t bring the same perspective that a more textured career does. So, you\u2019ve worked in retail, in hotels, and tourism? Great! That gives you an amazing insight into the inner workings of these three industries, not to mention incredible intuition on customer experience and behavior. Keeping this frame of mind is essential to overcoming imposter syndrome.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don\u2019t be ashamed of what you\u2019ve already got. It\u2019s worth much more than you think.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lie 3: Everyone <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">else<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> knows <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">exactly<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> what they\u2019re doing<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Jo in accounts? Super organized and smart. Riley from the dev team? A genius problem solver. Sammie the CEO? A whip-smart, infallible, completely intimidating <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">powerhouse. <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Every single one of these people is the scariest, most competent person you\u2019ve ever met, right? That is, until you make two realizations:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>They\u2019re insecure too.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> There\u2019s not a person on this planet that doesn\u2019t have their own insecurities. It doesn&#8217;t have be imposter syndrome exactly\u2014whether it\u2019s their work or their career direction, whether they are shy or think they talk too much, or whether they can\u2019t sleep at night from stress; never assume that other people have their sh*t together. Humans are fallible, and we are <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">all<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> human!<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>These people might simply be much more experienced than you<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. We promise you, back in the early days of our careers, we thought everyone was a master too. Then we realized what having experience actually means: it means you\u2019ve seen these situations and challenges all before. There are no surprises! Remember that in a few years time you\u2019ll be able to do things in your sleep that you couldn\u2019t even imagine doing now.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What to do about it: Talk to people around you. Ask them about how they came to be a designer, or a developer, or a CEO. Sure, some of them will have computer science degrees, and some of them will have the type of resum\u00e9 you could only dream of. But some won\u2019t! Either way, other people have nothing to do with you and your potential.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lie 4: People are saying that my work is good, but they\u2019re wrong<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You know that feeling when a boss or colleague or peer gives you a compliment about your work and your first thought is \u201cI\u2019ve tricked them, they fell for it\u201d? Yep, so do we. It\u2019s a weird feeling. You know you did a good enough job to show the work to them, so why are you surprised and suspicious now that it\u2019s been classified as \u201cgood\u201d?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This feeling is a classic symptom of imposter syndrome. It\u2019s one of the toughest things to overcome, especially for women. The reason it\u2019s so hard is that it demonstrates that you might have a perfectionist mindset, and while that <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">seems <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">like a great thing, it can be very damaging to your confidence and sense of worth.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We want you to challenge yourself on this, starting right now. If you don\u2019t genuinely think your work is good, then how are you supposed to advocate for yourself in the workplace? Asking for a raise, a promotion, or to be moved to another team is going to be impossible if you\u2019re not totally convinced that what you\u2019re doing is <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">good enough<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Let\u2019s be real, none of us are performing heart surgery. If your work is decent, fits the challenge, and your bosses are happy, then good for you! You\u2019ve done your job. Pat yourself on the back, and make sure you make a mental note: I did a good job today.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even if you want to do a great job, an incredible job, or a perfect job, 90% of the time, good is mostly good enough.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-5873\" src=\"http:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/debunking-imposter-syndrome-myths.jpg\" alt=\"A remote worker sitting in front of a laptop \" width=\"1200\" height=\"600\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/debunking-imposter-syndrome-myths.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/debunking-imposter-syndrome-myths-300x150.jpg 300w, https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/debunking-imposter-syndrome-myths-1024x512.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/debunking-imposter-syndrome-myths-768x384.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lie 5: There\u2019s someone out there trying to expose you as a fraud<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I often used to worry that if the person that hired me found out I\u2019d dropped out of university, then they would fire me on the spot. But the truth is, companies not only <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">want <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">you to do well, they actually need you to do well\u2026.and succeed!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here\u2019s why: You are an investment. An investment of time, money, and energy. Getting a new hire up to speed is an expensive and exhausting process, full of risks and obstacles. This is all good news for you! It means that your employer has a vested interest in ensuring that you not only survive, but thrive.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Our advice for combating this symptom of imposter syndrome? Get ahead of these scary feelings by showing self-awareness. Try this:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you feel like you fudged a project, meeting, or presentation, then proactively approach your manager to ask for feedback. Your manager will appreciate you taking charge and give you the support you need. Plus, you might even find that they were happy with what you did!<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep a Smile File! Every time someone you respect or admire gives you a compliment, a pat on the back, or positive feedback, write it down or screenshot it. Keep it on the desktop of your computer so that any time you\u2019re freaking out, you can click it open and remind yourself that your old boss once said something really encouraging.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stop focusing on the here and now and start thinking about your future. What is it that you want to achieve? What are your long-term goals, and how does this experience fit into that? What would your future self tell your current self about the fears you\u2019re having now? You are on your own journey, don\u2019t forget that, and all journeys involve moments of growth, fear, and discomfort. This is all a part of that.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cBusting imposter syndrome\u201d exercise<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><b>Now that we\u2019ve covered the 5 biggest lies you&#8217;ll tell yourself if you have imposter syndrome, let\u2019s start putting what you\u2019ve learned into practice!<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are three super simple steps that will help you to re-frame your story so that you can stop thinking that you don\u2019t belong.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Step 1:<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Write down the top three things that you\u2019re really good at. These don\u2019t have to relate to your career, but they do have to be proven. Perhaps a teacher has told you you\u2019re a great communicator, or you are consistently praised for your problem solving skills, or your friends tell you you\u2019re a great storyteller!<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Step 2:<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, think of a tangible way that each skill or ability could apply to your new role\/position\/career.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might need to think outside the box with this. What\u2019s at the core of that skill?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do people understand you clearly when you explain something? That means you\u2019re a good communicator. Are you able to tackle complex situations and make sense of them? That means you have good problem solving skills. Are you always coming up with interesting solutions to old problems? That means you\u2019re creative!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We often overlook the skills we have, not realizing that these are useful at work. (Hint: they often are!!)<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Step 3:<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Flip the script! Write down your three skills and how they apply to your new career on Post-its or paper. Put them somewhere that you will see them regularly. Make them the background on your computer, or put them up on your office bulletin board. Here are some examples of the kinds of things you might come up with:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019ve been pulling things apart to see how they work since I was a kid, and I\u2019ve always managed to figure out how something ticks. This means that I have strong <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">problem solving skills<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, which is key to my work as a developer.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People always tell me I\u2019m friendly, and that I make them feel welcome. This is great because, as a UX designer, it\u2019s my job to make users <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">feel comfortable<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in the testing and research phases.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I always got great marks in maths in high school, and love the way data always tells a story. This means that as a data analyst, I have the <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">passion and mindset<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to do great work.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>You can see myself and Brittni talk more about the &#8220;Busting Impostor Syndrome&#8221; exercise, as well as answer questions about all things impostor syndrome in this video of the webinar we hosted:<\/p>\n<style>.embed-container { position: relative; padding-bottom: 56.25%; height: 0; overflow: hidden; max-width: 100%; } .embed-container iframe, .embed-container object, .embed-container embed { position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; }<\/style>\n<div class=\"embed-container\"><iframe src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/_5XkielK6MA\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<p><b>Finally, and this is a big one:\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Go easy on yourself! We have a policy: we would never say something to ourselves that we wouldn\u2019t say to our friends. Cut out the harsh language and judgements, and practice self-compassion. No-one is ever going to be as hard on you as you are on yourself, and frankly&#8230;no-one cares about what you do as much as you do!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Focus on your own path, your own goals, and your own journey, and you\u2019ll realize something important.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>No-one is an imposter in their own life.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>And remember that sometimes imposter syndrome creeps in as a result of creative block. Here&#8217;s something to help with that: <a href=\"https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/blog\/ux-design\/how-to-get-over-creative-block-and-free-your-inner-designer\/\">9 ways for UX designers (and others!) to overcome creative block<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>If you enjoyed this post, check out the following:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/blog\/career-change\/career-change-fears\/\">Career-changers&#8217; biggest fears (and how to overcome them)<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/blog\/career-change\/personal-branding\/\">How to build a personal brand for your new career in tech<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/careerfoundry.inbearbeitung.de\/en\/blog\/career-change\/which-tech-career-path-is-right-for-me\/\">Which tech career path is right for you?<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you are reading this, chances are you know what imposter syndrome is. It\u2019s that nagging fear of being \u201cfound out,\u201d of not being good enough, or not deserving your success or achievements.\u00a0 We\u2019ve all experienced this. 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